Why Are You Judging Me?

​It is a universal fact that people often fall into the pool of judgmental perspectives when they are dealing with inferiority or superiority. Sometimes, we tend to judge other fellows based on their height, weight, style of walking, way of living, voice, and similar other aspects. This would not be acknowledged as a judgmental behavior unless the person in question is aware of it. However, when the person is aware of his/her attitude and still does not stop judging others, then it is a problem.

The question is that where this judgmental attitude does comes from. To answer this, I would like to put forward some points that are effective in embedding within us, a rigid behavior:

• Our childhood plays an important factor in developing our personality. As a child, we follow and imitate our adults. If our parents behave rigidly, we tend to behave in the similar fashion. As a child, if you often hear your parents commenting on the dress or behavior of a stranger, then your behavior will be molded into the same way.
• The second reason for becoming a rigid judgmental brat can be your peer group. I do not believe in the fact that making friends with intelligent people can convert a person into a better human being. However, I believe that at times, we tend to imitate our friends unknowingly, be it negatively or positively. If all your friends indulge in passing different comments regarding the clothes or walking style of a stranger, you are not left with an option. In such a situation, you have to engage in the same, whether you want to or not.
• Media becomes the third factor in motivating you to behave in a certain manner. We often see in movies or serials that the “popular group” of the college or school is engaged in passing ridiculous comments on the “less popular group” or “innocent students”. Somewhere deep down, we all want to become a part of the former group in our school or college days. This desire of becoming a part of a group that passes comments on other kids is the major psychological attack of media on our minds. 

The aforementioned points are the reasons behind a person’s judgmental attitude. Now, let us come to the ways of controlling it. When you are aware about your judgmental perspective, try to control it as soon as possible. In order to give it a stop, try using some of these methods:

• When you have issues in building self-esteem in yourself, you tend to judge others. So, try to build confidence in yourself. It will help you in becoming a good human being.
• Stop getting jealous of people's achievements. When you are jealous, inferiority is induced in you. 
• Try to see people as other human beings. In fact, I would say that try to be a little humane towards animals too.
• One of the best ways to control your judgmental attitude is to step into the shoes of others. Before commenting on them, think for a moment, how you will feel hearing the same comment for yourself.
• These methods and few others will help you in controlling this behavior. Remember, having a judgmental behavior is not a sin. However, keeping this attitude is! 

"Nothing" contains everything

As an existentialist would say, our life means nothing and with all our efforts, we are trying to reach to death.

Life has never been easy for anyone. People strive to survive it somehow. God has given us the power of emotions and intellectualism. We can think for ourselves and decide our future. But have you ever wondered about the reality of what future holds for us? We think it will bring us happiness or sadness; success or failure. But in reality, the future only brings us death!

Death is inevitable. Throughout our life, we study hard, work hard, earn money, follow societal norms, follow endless number of traditions and embed ourselves in a culture. But do we ever think what is going to be the actual end of it all? No.

Why?

This is because, as the renowned dramatist Beckett would say, we always get an impression that we exist. Very few amongst us can actually feel the predicament.

When life takes you down, challenges you to do impossible things.. just imagine that you don't exist and all the other unnecessary burdens of society will shrink to the minimum.

Feel the real meaning of your existence, which is precisely "Nothing". Thus, nothing contains everything in it. You just have to feel it and understand it. Feel the dread!!

What do you have to say about this? Feedback appreciated! 

Teach me how to forget you...

'Love' - it's a feeling that takes you away from your senses, intelligence, your interests and everything else. This feeling can make you do things you never could do before. It's deep and strong. If you love someone, you won't think twice before giving them your everything.

People say that if your truly love someone, you never do anything to hurt them. I want to ask these people that what should we do if the person who claims to love us break us apart. Can you forgive them? What can you do when the person you loved the most doesn't even prioritize you? Can you then forgive them?

No. You can't. But out of pure experience, I can say that if you really love them, you will forgive them and you will move ahead. You might never be able to forget them but you will move on. That is the only revenge you can take because you can't hurt them the way they did. It is not possible for you to do the same. You can only move on.

Saying it is easier than doing it. You can't move on from a person whom you imagined your life with. The feeling will kill you almost every minute. You won't be able to concentrate on anything. People will ask you to have patience and wait for time to do its task. Then you will be waiting for time to pass, which will make it more difficult. You will feel isolated from everything that's been happening around.

Now, my question is that if you don't intend to love someone or stay with them forever, why even come in their lives ? Why do you destroy their lives so much when you don't wish to stay? What do you really get out of it? I don't think that it can be a hobby to finish people and hurt them. What is it then?

If anyone of you can answer, kindly revert in the comments section. Would love feedback.