What is the reason behind the messy, confusing, over-caring, possessive behaviour of girls,is a question that i ask myself frequently. Sometimes when i am free or i am feeling in a certain unexplainable manner, i sit myself down to contemplate on what is the issue behind my increasing insecurity or rather i would say, what is the issue behind some girls' increasing insecurity most of the time (not generalizing).
In a relationship or even friendship, in the beginning there is a lot of togetherness that you feel. Most of the time it's from both sides. Each one of you wants to stay with each other and spend most of your time with them, This phase, as accounted by most people, is the most beautiful phase of your life. It goes on for a good period of time, but when it begins to come to an end, one of us becomes more attached and more 'glued' to the other. Now if we just talk about the relationship, the girl starts getting emotional. ( don't consider that every girl is emotional, some are not, but only when this phase enters her life, she becomes emotional)
I wouldn't generalize here by saying that most girls get emotional during this time. In some relationship, it could be the boy. But it is rare.
The reason that personally i think behind this existence of this particular phase is that when everything is new, there is always a curiosity of the unknown. Along with this, there is a need,an insecurity and a sense of achievement in the beginning. You start feeling that you have achieved the unattainable. But the question is until when, does this feeling persists?
When this particular "good" phase comes to end, and the two of you don't accept it in a similar manner, one being too 'okay' with and the other being not too 'okay', then the real story begins.
That is the time to realize how much you actually love the other when you both are not talking all the time and clinging to each other almost all the time, That particularly, is the time to see if you can love a person as much with his other priorities as you did when you were his only priority.
I, certainly am not an expert of what the boys feel if they are the one with an emotional touch and a not too 'okay' attitude. But i am sure of what the girls feel.
They feel themselves literally 'glued' to the boy,and trust me it is not a pleasant feeling at all. It,in fact is a pathetic feeling to feel as if you are sticking to him too much. There comes a time when you lose the control over yourself that you always had. This is a time when the girl starts getting possessive, more insecure and messy. She doesn't like the guy to even hang with a friend who is a girl, which should be acceptable. And this is the reason why problems begin, because these are the feelings inescapable and inevitable. You know that you are getting glued, you know you are taking the freedom of the other and you also know that it is not right but then, yo are trapped.
Feelings and emotions are the traps you can't get out,no matter how hard you try. Above both of these, 'LOVE' is a trap which doesn't seem to be a trap, never feels like one, but is the most dangerous one. For the times that it makes you feel good, you forget the endless times when it makes you feel horrible. You know why?
Because 'love' is the most beautiful of the feelings undefinable even by god, and for that one moment of butterfly in your stomach, you can cry several of those lonely nights!
In a relationship or even friendship, in the beginning there is a lot of togetherness that you feel. Most of the time it's from both sides. Each one of you wants to stay with each other and spend most of your time with them, This phase, as accounted by most people, is the most beautiful phase of your life. It goes on for a good period of time, but when it begins to come to an end, one of us becomes more attached and more 'glued' to the other. Now if we just talk about the relationship, the girl starts getting emotional. ( don't consider that every girl is emotional, some are not, but only when this phase enters her life, she becomes emotional)
I wouldn't generalize here by saying that most girls get emotional during this time. In some relationship, it could be the boy. But it is rare.
The reason that personally i think behind this existence of this particular phase is that when everything is new, there is always a curiosity of the unknown. Along with this, there is a need,an insecurity and a sense of achievement in the beginning. You start feeling that you have achieved the unattainable. But the question is until when, does this feeling persists?
When this particular "good" phase comes to end, and the two of you don't accept it in a similar manner, one being too 'okay' with and the other being not too 'okay', then the real story begins.
That is the time to realize how much you actually love the other when you both are not talking all the time and clinging to each other almost all the time, That particularly, is the time to see if you can love a person as much with his other priorities as you did when you were his only priority.
I, certainly am not an expert of what the boys feel if they are the one with an emotional touch and a not too 'okay' attitude. But i am sure of what the girls feel.
They feel themselves literally 'glued' to the boy,and trust me it is not a pleasant feeling at all. It,in fact is a pathetic feeling to feel as if you are sticking to him too much. There comes a time when you lose the control over yourself that you always had. This is a time when the girl starts getting possessive, more insecure and messy. She doesn't like the guy to even hang with a friend who is a girl, which should be acceptable. And this is the reason why problems begin, because these are the feelings inescapable and inevitable. You know that you are getting glued, you know you are taking the freedom of the other and you also know that it is not right but then, yo are trapped.
Feelings and emotions are the traps you can't get out,no matter how hard you try. Above both of these, 'LOVE' is a trap which doesn't seem to be a trap, never feels like one, but is the most dangerous one. For the times that it makes you feel good, you forget the endless times when it makes you feel horrible. You know why?
Because 'love' is the most beautiful of the feelings undefinable even by god, and for that one moment of butterfly in your stomach, you can cry several of those lonely nights!
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