Tuesday, December 1, 2015

How much solitude does one require ?

So what is solitude? To be isolated completely or to remain in a place away from some specific people? Usually we take solitude as being isolated from some people and then getting back again when we are fine. Sometimes we are just too frustrated to stay among people and we need peace for which we carve for that particular time; often we mistake it for solitude.

I believe that we humans are very prone to clinging to each others. We need company all the time, no matter if we like the company we are into or not. We just need it. It is not a desire but a necessity. To even travel to a place very near by or a grocery shop for that matter, we tend to ask somebody to tag along. All the time we have this inevitable need of talking to someone which makes us cling to few such people whom we might despise otherwise, but because we don't have a variety of options we tend to stay with them. But the question is how pretentious is it possible for a human being to be? By staying in a friendship or relationship with people whose temperament and nature don't appeal us, are we raising the levels of pretensions in our basic nature?
 None of us can deny that we all are pretentious in some manner or the other. But how much is a question we never ask ourselves.

When i think about it on my personal front, i feel that i am just too pretentious. I pretend almost everything and when i don't, things get worse. So does that mean, we pretend because we are afraid of the worse of situations, ignorance above all? I believe that it is true to some extent as being a human i don't think there is anything that we do without a selfish purpose. Even helping someone inhabits in itself a selfish purpose of our own, may it be something materialistic or spiritualistic.

But what happens after we pretend? Human beings can tolerate things only to a certain extent but we stretch our limits usually to not let ourselves get isolated. 

My dilemma lies in the fact that in 21st century, are we searching for isolation in this big, huge populated world or we need company in a world where no one recognizes us? So many question marks are popping in my head. i can't get a significant answers as yet. Stuck in this world and with a psychology of a human being, i am contemplating upon things which bothers me when i feel ignored for no reason. Maybe confuse habit with ignorance. Maybe i am in a habit of something which is no more there and i think i am ignored. If that is so, i am happy because habits leave us as early as they stick to us. I guess then solitude is getting synonymous to peace and ignorance is getting synonymous to habit of being in a company. 

We don't actually need solitude, what we really need is the correct company. 

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