Why Are You Judging Me?

​It is a universal fact that people often fall into the pool of judgmental perspectives when they are dealing with inferiority or superiority. Sometimes, we tend to judge other fellows based on their height, weight, style of walking, way of living, voice, and similar other aspects. This would not be acknowledged as a judgmental behavior unless the person in question is aware of it. However, when the person is aware of his/her attitude and still does not stop judging others, then it is a problem.

The question is that where this judgmental attitude does comes from. To answer this, I would like to put forward some points that are effective in embedding within us, a rigid behavior:

• Our childhood plays an important factor in developing our personality. As a child, we follow and imitate our adults. If our parents behave rigidly, we tend to behave in the similar fashion. As a child, if you often hear your parents commenting on the dress or behavior of a stranger, then your behavior will be molded into the same way.
• The second reason for becoming a rigid judgmental brat can be your peer group. I do not believe in the fact that making friends with intelligent people can convert a person into a better human being. However, I believe that at times, we tend to imitate our friends unknowingly, be it negatively or positively. If all your friends indulge in passing different comments regarding the clothes or walking style of a stranger, you are not left with an option. In such a situation, you have to engage in the same, whether you want to or not.
• Media becomes the third factor in motivating you to behave in a certain manner. We often see in movies or serials that the “popular group” of the college or school is engaged in passing ridiculous comments on the “less popular group” or “innocent students”. Somewhere deep down, we all want to become a part of the former group in our school or college days. This desire of becoming a part of a group that passes comments on other kids is the major psychological attack of media on our minds. 

The aforementioned points are the reasons behind a person’s judgmental attitude. Now, let us come to the ways of controlling it. When you are aware about your judgmental perspective, try to control it as soon as possible. In order to give it a stop, try using some of these methods:

• When you have issues in building self-esteem in yourself, you tend to judge others. So, try to build confidence in yourself. It will help you in becoming a good human being.
• Stop getting jealous of people's achievements. When you are jealous, inferiority is induced in you. 
• Try to see people as other human beings. In fact, I would say that try to be a little humane towards animals too.
• One of the best ways to control your judgmental attitude is to step into the shoes of others. Before commenting on them, think for a moment, how you will feel hearing the same comment for yourself.
• These methods and few others will help you in controlling this behavior. Remember, having a judgmental behavior is not a sin. However, keeping this attitude is!