Pangs of disappointment.

Disappointment, whether it be in love or otherwise brings out a very different kind of emotion- an emotion which doesn't have an explanation. No doubt, its a consequence of expectations or rather high expectations, which is natural and a basic nature of human beings. A question which I frequently ask myself regarding this topic is that from where do these expectations come from? Why do they come? What is the reason behind it.?

Even at times when you try to avoid expecting, somewhere deep down consciously or unconsciously you are expecting. Ignorance again is one of the mainstream path to curiosity. When you tend not to expect certain things from some certain people, the very moment you are expecting.
 When it's about some events, for instance results, most people throw out these dialogues when asked about their expections, " I am not expecting anything" or "I don't know how I did in my exams, so don't ask me about my expections. They are nil." or one of the favorite dialogues, " I did not do well, I am just expecting to get passed this sem". Most of them, or rather all these dialogues aren't in any way true, while speaking them we are secretly expecting some marks according to our performance in the exams. Then another question pops up in my mind.. If we are expecting some marks, then why do we utter these dialogues when asked about expectations? I think and have noticed not only in others but in myself as well, that these have been there and are there only because of a sense of fear and for a requirement of sympathy as well as unexpected appreciation.

Apart from these events, in terms of love, the expectations and their wish of being fulfilled is too high. Time and again we come across the phrase of unconditional love,which I personally believe is a myth. When you love someone, you assuredly expect, if not anything else but at least the same love back from them. Along with this, people expect affection, care and an immense intimation with their partners. All these are expectations which have high fulfilment expectations and when this fulfilment is not achieved, there comes into picture 'pangs of disappointment.'

These disappointments then helps in the strengthening of friendship bonds. One good point about disappointments is that no matter how much you try you can't keep it inside, you need someone to share it with. Then we catch hold of our closest of friends, ask for advice and try to get some sympathy.
It's finely said by Jane Austen that,
"Friendship is certainly the finest balm for the pangs of disappointed love."
              -Northanger Abbey.