Love, affection and compassion is prevalent in all relationships, whatsoever they are. But as we talk about relationships another thing which needs consideration is "generation gap".
It's a well known concept defined by each in their own manner. It doesn't have a subjective definition. When we talk about an age gap, the first image that comes into our mind is a gap that prevails between parents and their children, which is because this is the gap which no matter what the situation implies, each one of us face. Now, this parent-child relationship is a very crucial one. Where the children live their lives being care-free and with a constant complaint of not being understood, the parents from the beginning itself live their lives in constant fear. We always blame them for not letting us do what we want and for not letting us have our freedom. Yes, they are scared of losing their child to wrong paths and this is because they have gone through this age and are definitely more experienced. On the other hand, while we live in this generation and are experiencing the day to day hastles, the pressures of peer groups, the never ending competition and the heavy load of studies, it becomes difficult for the parents to understand our situations. Then they come up with a very usual dialogue," we also had a youth, we were also young and we know what it's all about" whereas in real they actually don't know what its all about.
"We've also completed our education but we never used to boast about the competition."
Here comes another favorite dialogue which becomes an irritating element for those of us who are struggling with their studies each day. The level of competition which we have to deal with is completely beyond their understanding and its not their fault because no matter how much you are aware of the current affairs and the cut offs and the hikes of the universities, you actually don't know anything until you experience it yourself.
Being a teenage myself, I don't prefer to look at this gap in favor of my kinds. I want to throw light upon the issues that our parents face because of this as well. In such a fast paced and self enclosed lives, we tend to forget the difficulties that our parents face and the fear in which they live, the isolation which we have made for them. Time and again we make them realize that they know very little or nothing about us. They want to know a bit more and we focus on hiding a lot more. We have enclosed ourselves in a shell which includes our friends, boyfriend or girlfriend and peer groups. It becomes a big deal for us if anybody says anything about our parents, " Don't you dare utter a word about my mom or dad." It seems so good to speak these words, but if we look at it a bit more closely these words only imply a meaning when we to some extent understand them in terms of our behavior to them as well.
What I believe personally regarding this part of our lives is that we should always maintain a communication level with our parents. Miscommunication always lead to misunderstandings. No issue is that big which could not be solved through communication.
Generation gap does not end with this parent- child relationship, in fact it begins from here. There are different types of generation gaps such as grandparents- parents , grandparents- children, sister-brother. Even a 2 year difference can create a huge gap. But all these relationships requires an altogether different realm of thought, which differs from this very initial generation gap between the parents and their children.
It's a well known concept defined by each in their own manner. It doesn't have a subjective definition. When we talk about an age gap, the first image that comes into our mind is a gap that prevails between parents and their children, which is because this is the gap which no matter what the situation implies, each one of us face. Now, this parent-child relationship is a very crucial one. Where the children live their lives being care-free and with a constant complaint of not being understood, the parents from the beginning itself live their lives in constant fear. We always blame them for not letting us do what we want and for not letting us have our freedom. Yes, they are scared of losing their child to wrong paths and this is because they have gone through this age and are definitely more experienced. On the other hand, while we live in this generation and are experiencing the day to day hastles, the pressures of peer groups, the never ending competition and the heavy load of studies, it becomes difficult for the parents to understand our situations. Then they come up with a very usual dialogue," we also had a youth, we were also young and we know what it's all about" whereas in real they actually don't know what its all about.
"We've also completed our education but we never used to boast about the competition."
Here comes another favorite dialogue which becomes an irritating element for those of us who are struggling with their studies each day. The level of competition which we have to deal with is completely beyond their understanding and its not their fault because no matter how much you are aware of the current affairs and the cut offs and the hikes of the universities, you actually don't know anything until you experience it yourself.
Being a teenage myself, I don't prefer to look at this gap in favor of my kinds. I want to throw light upon the issues that our parents face because of this as well. In such a fast paced and self enclosed lives, we tend to forget the difficulties that our parents face and the fear in which they live, the isolation which we have made for them. Time and again we make them realize that they know very little or nothing about us. They want to know a bit more and we focus on hiding a lot more. We have enclosed ourselves in a shell which includes our friends, boyfriend or girlfriend and peer groups. It becomes a big deal for us if anybody says anything about our parents, " Don't you dare utter a word about my mom or dad." It seems so good to speak these words, but if we look at it a bit more closely these words only imply a meaning when we to some extent understand them in terms of our behavior to them as well.
What I believe personally regarding this part of our lives is that we should always maintain a communication level with our parents. Miscommunication always lead to misunderstandings. No issue is that big which could not be solved through communication.
Generation gap does not end with this parent- child relationship, in fact it begins from here. There are different types of generation gaps such as grandparents- parents , grandparents- children, sister-brother. Even a 2 year difference can create a huge gap. But all these relationships requires an altogether different realm of thought, which differs from this very initial generation gap between the parents and their children.
indeed!! you are right ms. kaushik!! we as teenagers should put efforts on our sides to understand them and make them understand us rather than hiding ourselves which will make the situation worse!! for this we have to put aside our ego and the misconception that they don't know anything and they are always wrong! :)
ReplyDeleteThank you. And yes you are right, its a two way process which needs to be sorted out in an appropriate manner keeping the communication part at its base. :)
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ReplyDelete"They want to know a bit more and we focus on hiding a lot more." my favorite line in your essay is this. It is correct that we hide a lot many things from them which is the reason they don't understand us. And i guess technologies have given us privacy and a step back from our parents. While you talk about generation gap.. yes the major focus comes on our parents, but at the same time it come to your elder sisters as well.. who are merely 1-3 years older to you, yet different. Amazing thoughts..!!
ReplyDeleteThank you Cherie for your appreciation. :)
ReplyDeleteThank you Cherie for your appreciation. :)
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